Why Willpower Isn’t Enough When It Comes To Emotional Eating – Mindset Monday
POSTED ON October 23, 2017 BY Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, master coach and podcast and TV host who is committed to guiding people and organizations into their highest potential. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination.
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What Cravings Are Your Emotions Creating?
If you are struggling with emotional eating, you’re not alone! Hundreds if not thousands of people have faced this problem in their lives. A lot of them try to solve it by willpower alone; after a particularly bad binge they tell themselves they are never eating chocolate again or they are going to stop eating entirely and then try to muscle through it without additional support.
Of course, this rarely works and never leads to a healthy and happy outcome. You see, in the case of emotional eating, willpower alone just isn’t enough.
The reason we emotionally eat is because we are subconsciously trying to heal and/or deal with an emotion through food.
Sweet Cravings = Negative Self Talk
People who have terrible negative self talk often find themselves craving sugar. When you aren’t kind to yourself, you crave sweetness from another source. Chocolate, candy, milkshakes, brownies, cake, etc.
Crunchy/Salty Cravings = Stressed/Angry
When you are angry, stressed or not speaking your truth you might crave crunchy/salty foods that take some chewing. The crunch and chewing action helps to reduce the stress.
Fatty Foods = Unfulfillment
Craving fatty foods usually means there is some area in your life in which you are not getting fulfilled. Relationships, romance, work, etc. There is something missing. Fatty foods are the most filling and this is why they help you feel that you’re filling the place that’s empty inside you.
What Can You Do About It?
It’s entertaining and interesting to learn more about the root cause of your cravings, but what can you do about it? If willpower isn’t enough, what is?
These deep emotional feelings are big and can take time to work with, uncover and process. It is important to look at overcoming emotional eating as a journey, not an immediate destination or a miracle pill. Commit to yourself for the long haul and begin to work on healing from the inside out.
Quiet Your Inner Critic
Thoughts that we think over and over again become like pathways in the forest of our mind. Once we’ve walked on them enough times, they become easier and easier to walk down. Throughout the day when you aren’t living up to expectations you will naturally start thinking thoughts like “I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m fat, I’m ugly, I’m mean, I’m impatient, I don’t deserve these good things in my life,” etc.
It will take time to create new thought pathways and commit to taking them instead of your self destructive pathways.
You may think that your inner critic is doing you a favor. But this is rarely if ever the case. Change, healing and true transformation come when we speak to ourselves kindly and fill our own bucket with love. This will be far more motivating and self-empowering than anything negative you say to yourself.
Commit to your relationship with yourself. It might not be easy at first, but at least start with:
I am enough.
I love myself.
I am accepting myself.
I am committed to myself.
More than any other thing I’ve changed in my life, the one thing that has been the most important has been my personal relationship with MYSELF.
Fill The Areas That Are Unfulfilled
Look closely at what is making you feel unfulfilled in life. Do you want more love? More creative freedom? More time for yourself? More connection? More vulnerability and friendship? More confidence in your career? Are you just bored? Really dig deep to discover what area you are wanting MORE in. Where are you feeling empty?
Once you know where the empty space is, you can start taking action to fill it. Give yourself a space where you can be creative. Start an art class or sketch on your own in the afternoons. Write a story. Read some fantasy novels. Take time to show yourself love. Focus on connection and really finding those close to you that you can form stronger relationships with. Learn a new skill to improve your resume and confidence. Whatever it is, do it! Commit and take action.
Utilize Your Parasympathetic Nervous System
When we emotional eat we feel out of control and stressed, our emotions and senses are heightened. Often if you can pull your body back into a parasympathetic state it will calm you down enough to the point that the craving will be easier to overcome. How do you do this?
Deep breathing. Before giving into your craving, take a few minutes to just breathe deeply all the way down to your toes.
Touch. Give yourself some loving touch. Stroke your arm, massage your legs, etc. This is scientifically proven to help.
I hope you’ve found this information useful today. Let us know below what your worst cravings are and how you overcome them.
Remember, we’re in this together.
Christine and Drew
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Christine supports individuals in answering the questions: “Who Am I, What do I want, and How do I get it?” Christine is a master coach who combines life coaching with the principles of spiritual psychology. She is passionate about supporting people out of suffering and limitation and into fulfillment. Bottom line: she helps people get “over it and on with it!”
Christine’s passion for coaching was born at the age of 23 when she met her first life coach, Mona. She thought she was just going to get some advice about the challenges she was having with her boyfriend and questions she had about her career, but she ended up seeing and studying with Mona for over a decade. The work they did together was life-changing. Most notably, Christine was able to get through her massive quarter-life crisis when she lost everything (job, engagement, money and health) and off anti-depressants and other medications after being on them for 20 years.
Today Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken to over 100,000 people at colleges, personal growth events, conferences, and corporations. Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about generation diversity, millennials, resilience, leadership, life balance and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked. She is also a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and Cosmo.
Currently she hosts a top-rated podcast on the Podcast One Network “Over it and On with it” where she coaches callers live on the air. She is also the co-host and relationship expert on TLC’s The Spouse House. Christine leads four retreats per year, runs a yearly Personal Mastery online course, hosts a membership community, and works privately with clients.
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