What To Do When You’re Alone For New Year’s Eve
What To Do When You’re Alone For New Year’s Eve
Written by: Kat Gal
Just like any other holiday, New Year’s Eve can be full of pressure to be with amazing people, to do something awesome, to party, to get drunk, to enter the new year with a kiss and most importantly with people.
If you are spending New Year’s Eve alone, it can certainly feel depressing, lonely and bring up a lot of fears on missing out. Yet so many people are spending this day by themselves that you are definitely not alone. In fact, you can totally make your entry tino your new year magical – all on your own!
A couple of years ago I was living in Mexico. My boyfriend (now husband) was not able to visit me because airline tickets were too expensive. My expat friends had either gone home to their own countries or had a local significant other to celebrate with. My local friends went home to celebrate this day as a family holiday. This left me with me and myself for my new year celebration.
Naturally, I was upset at first. But I quickly realized that I couldn’t bury myself into self-pity and victimhood, but I could take charge of my life and create a fantastic new year for myself.
Your reasons may be completely different than mine, spending the turn from 2016 to 2017 by yourself, but the following tips should still help you to create the best possible new year. If you are not by yourself this day, you can still implement these tips just the same.
1. Think About What You Want To Do
New Year’s Eve, as with any other holiday, can come with a lot of pressure and compromise. You may actually end up at a party you don’t like or do an activity that was someone else’s choice.
This is your time to think about what YOU want to do. It can be going out by yourself, cozying up in your pajamas in front of a movie, running a midnight 5K, dancing to your favorite song, going for a walk, or going to sleep by 9 pm, or anything else.
2. Treat Yourself
This goes along with what you want to do: treat yourself. Treating yourself can take many shapes, the most important part is that you are enjoying it.
Treating yourself may mean signing up for a massage. It can mean binge-watching a TV show. It can mean a fancy dinner or ordering in. It can be a long bath, a hot tea and a good book under the blanket. It can mean healthy raw vegan desserts after a large salad, or a day off from healthy eating and enjoying a decadent slice of tiramisu.
3. Clean Up
This may sound strange, but entering the new year with a clean slate and a clean place is amazing. Go through your closet or even just your purse and throw out what’s not needed. Clean up your room or apartment.
Do an emotional cleaning as well. Write down things you don’t want to bring into the new year – anger, grudges, sadness, bad memories, emotional pain. Burn the papers that you wrote these down on, which allows you to emotionally release them and creates space for something new.
4. Connect With Loved Ones
You may be alone, but you may still have people you care about. Call them up, arrange a Skype chat with them, email them or send them a snail mail. In case you are at a cross-roads and you can’t think of anyone you can call or email, you can think of a loved one who has passed away and write them a letter filled with untold words.
You can also imagine the type of person or multiple people you would love to connect with in the future and write them a letter. This exercise will allow you to attract your tribe for the future.
5. Write Yourself A Love Letter
Connecting with loved ones and attracting your tribe is crucial, but loving yourself is just as important. This may be awkward, but write yourself a love letter. Write down all the things you appreciate about yourself, things you love, things you are proud of and words of encouragement for the future.
Fold your letter and place it in an envelope. Read it over and over again throughout the new year, especially during tough times.
Journaling is a fantastic activity to get in touch with your true self and to tap into your intuition. Journaling can help you to release old stuff and welcome the new. Grab your journal and just free write. Don’t think about grammar or anything else, just write. Let the free flow of writing guide you into the new year.
7. Choose Your Guiding Words
Having guiding words for the new year can be very beneficial. Whenever you are facing a tough time or a decision, you can just look at your word that will guide you to act and to be the best way possible in alignment with your core beliefs, values and your true self.
I personally tend to pick two words. “Love” is my guiding word for every year. My other guiding word is different each year. I have picked “commitment,” “compassion” and “healing” in the past years. Don’t overthink it. Just listen to your intuition. Write down your word and stick it somewhere you can see it every day.
8. Goal Setting
New year’s eve is a perfect time for goal setting. Set your timer for 7 minutes and write down anything that comes to mind: all your dreams and goals, no matter how outrageous they are and no matter if they are short or long-term.
Then take 2 minutes to go through everything and note the time-frame of each goal. Do you want to achieve them within the next year, next 5 years, next 10 years, next 20 years, or next 50 years?
Now look at your one-year goals and select the top 3 most important. Think about them. Write down your strong “why”: why do you need to achieve these goals?
Once you have your why, create the first 5 action steps you need to do to achieve these goals. Make sure they are doable and that you do the first one within the next 72 hours to get a strong start and to show commitment.
9. Make A Vision Board
Using your guiding words, goals and any of your other dreams, create a vision board. Cut out pictures and words from magazines that bring you joy and represent your goals. Arrange them nicely on a posterboard. Once you are satisfied, glue them on the board and place the board where you can see them every day for the upcoming year.
This may be the most important one of all. Don’t stress out or feel sad for being alone. Don’t worry about the future. Just relax. Meditate. Take a bath. Cozy up. Breathe. You are amazing.
These tips should help you to have a magical new year’s eve and a fantastic start into the next year, even if you are by yourself. But in case you have plans with friends and family, you can still implement these tips to have a successful start come January 1st. And remember: you are NEVER alone, we are here for you, we are all in this together.
Happy New Year!
How are you spending your New Year’s Eve? What are your goals and dreams for the next year? Share with us in the comments below. We would love to hear from you.
Kat Gál is a multi-passionate writer, world traveler, nomad, runner, and cat-person. She is a lifelong learner who lives outside of her comfort zones stretching her boundaries and discovering beauty around the world. She is a Certified Holistic Health and Life Coach who encourages others to embrace their unique authentic selves, follow their heart and find their own version of freedom in life.
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