Want To Be Successful? Help Other People
Written by: Kat Gal
Call me boring, but Saturday was Netflix night – and that is just fine by me. I had a chance to watch the new, hot documentary Tony Robbins – I am not your guru.
It is an incredible documentary that you absolutely must watch. It would be a crime not to. I am serious. You will gain insight to a 6 day workshop by Tony Robbins and besides being entertained and amazed, you will likely cry like a baby and experience life-changing breakthroughs or at least deep insights and ideas yourself.
Besides my own tears and breakthrough experiences during this less than 2-hour film, I was absolutely astounded by Tony Robbins. I am familiar with his work – his books and mp3 recordings have helped me through some tough times and continue to guide me today. Yet, watching him, I was impressed by his energy, love, kindness, tough-love, dedication, care and results. His energy came through the documentary like no other; many rock stars would be envious. I can’t even imagine being in the room for the live workshop for 6 days (but I want to).
I am moved by his dedication to help and transform other’s lives… I am also impressed by his success. The two are no doubt connected.
Tony Robbins is clearly successful. Not only financially – though the man has more than enough money – but he also seems to be successful personally, emotionally and spiritually.
He could’ve hung up his shoes a long time ago retiring to Fiji. He could do 1% of the work and still be fine. But no, he doesn’t stop. He gives and gives and gives. Sure, this particular workshop is expensive, but his books are affordable and you can find free videos and blogs by him as well. His drive and willingness to help others have gotten him to where he is and have brought him success.
His is not the only one. Many successful people have become successful because of their genuine desire to help others. Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay are great examples. I also must mention Drew Canole, who started with small videos, sharing his journey and inspiring others – and look where FitLifeTV is now. Still growing.
But it’s not all about fame or money, not even about careers. A successful mother becomes successful due to her love and care for her children. You become successful in your relationships for the same reasons. In pretty much all areas of your life, love, care, kindness and helping others are key ingredients for setting you up for success.
Here are 5 tips for you to become successful by helping others:
1. Share your knowledge and your expertise. Everyone is good at something. There is something you know more about or have more experience in than someone else. Someone – and likely many people – can learn from and benefit from your knowledge and experience.
Draw from your life experiences, education, professional background, hobbies and interests. Be a life-long learner. Experience your own life. Share it with others. There are so many ways you can share. Of course, you can blog, vlog and spread the word all over the internet. But better yet, spread your knowledge in small doses in your personal interactions. Use your knowledge and expertise by volunteering and offering support.
2. Share your resources. If you know something, don’t hide it. If you know someone who is interested in health and nutrition, but doesn’t know where to start, tell them about FitLifeTV and other health websites you’ve read, give them some recipes, or better yet, invite them over for a healthy dinner.
Instead of hiding your network, help others to connect with your connections. Sharing resources will not take away opportunities from you. Look at others as friends, not as enemies or competitors.
3. Make others aware of opportunities. Just think about how many times you see an opportunity – a job post, a contest, or a coupon – that’s not for you, so you delete or ignore it. Instead of just throwing the opportunity into the garbage, see if you know anyone it may suit better. It may just change his/her life.
For example, in early 2015 as I was ready to leave Mexico after working there for 6 months I ran into an amazing job opportunity. Since I was leaving anyways, I could’ve just ignored it, but I passed it down to a friend who was struggling to renew her visa. Guess what? She got the job, renewed her visa and is still working in Mexico. It turned out to be her dream job.
4. Become a cheerleader. You don’t need pom-poms or learn silly dances, but encourage others in pursuing their dreams. It doesn’t matter if their dreams are different, similar, or even identical to yours. Encourage them, cheer them on and celebrate their successes. I bet you will get the same in return. Afterall, we are all in this together.
5. Don’t tear others down. It is kind of obvious, but don’t discourage others. Constructive criticism is awesome, especially if asked for, but don’t be unkind or negative. Mention the positives too along with encouragement. Don’t badmouth people, don’t gossip and don’t try to stop their success.
There is enough room for everyone. Other people’s success doesn’t mean you can’t be successful. Tony Robbins is not the only personal development guru. He doesn’t tear people down, in fact, he even helps other trainers and coaches to become awesome. This only makes him more successful, certainly not less.
By helping, you can become the best and healthiest version of you; Drew Canole doesn’t become less successful, less healthy, or less happy, but in contradiction, it only betters his life. Be kind and loving, because we are all in this together.
By helping and inspiring others whenever you get a chance, you will build deeper connections, which will likely benefit all aspects of your life: your professional life, your personal life, your physical health, your mental health, your spiritual health and your overall well-being.
But remember, don’t just help so you can experience personal benefits. It doesn’t work that way. Be genuine and do it from the heart. Your success will naturally come in return.
The more you love, the more love you will receive.
It’s your turn! How will you continue to pay it forward? How will you help, inspire and love others? Share with us in the comments below. We would love to hear from you.
Kat Gál is a multi-passionate writer, world traveler, nomad, runner, and cat-person. She is a lifelong learner who lives outside of her comfort zones stretching her boundaries and discovering beauty around the world. She is a Certified Holistic Health and Life Coach who encourages others to embrace their unique authentic selves, follow their heart and find their own version of freedom in life.
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