I took some time to travel to South America this Spring and found myself in beautiful Colombia. It was such an amazing and eye opening experience for me that I couldn’t help but film some videos while I was there and share with you what I’ve learned.
Being in a foreign country and speaking a foreign language, I have been thinking a lot about communication and what it truly means to speak your truth. So, today I want to talk to you about three ways to speak your truth.
#1 Speak Your Authentic Truth
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” – Maya Angelou
As human beings, we spend a lot of time talking. We talk about this, talk about that. Discuss this, discuss that. Our lives are filled with conversation and our relationships are built off of this “communication”. But how often do we speak the truth? How often do we speak our truth? The real stuff, even the uncomfortable to bring up stuff?
Do you ever speak words just to please or because they are what someone else wants to hear?
Most people are afraid to speak their truth because they’re afraid of what other people will think. The whole time in a conversation they are up in their head, worrying, wondering and calculating what other people are thinking and feeling about what they are saying.
Let me ask you a question: how often do the words you speak reflect who you truly are?
Think about this: Someone is having a conversation but the whole time they are thinking about what the other person is thinking about. And amidst all this thinking, they are still trying to communicate with another person! How much of their energy do you think is actually focused on the other person and on speaking pure, authentic truth?. In my experience, not much.
If you’re on an elevator with eight other people, all of you are traveling up a building and thinking things in your own minds. How often are you thinking about what they might be thinking of you… or the opposite, how often are you placing your own form of judgment on them?
You may have not realized it before, but this opens up a big blue ocean of opportunity to get outside your own mind, be compassionate and be heart-centered when it comes to communicating with other people.
To really speak your authentic truth and be heard, you have to get outside of your head and into the mind and hearts of the people around you.
#2 Speak Their Language
“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.” – Peter F. Drucker
Do you know a foreign language? My Spanish is shaky at best. I can get around but it isn’t always easy.
What is a language that we all speak? Regardless of culture or race?
The universal language of love is number 1.
What comes after that? Nonverbal communication. It’s said that about 70% of communication has nothing to do with the words that come out of your mouth. That means that anywhere you are in the world, only 30% of what you’re speaking even matters in a conversation.
If you’re talking with someone, what do you want to do to make sure they know you’re listening and focused? You want to lean in, be attentive, have your eyes wide open, nod your head in response to things they say, and keeping your attention zeroed in on them.
While I was in South America, I was more dependent on nonverbal communication than I’ve ever been. When I didn’t know the words being spoken, I relied on people’s facial expressions and body movements to tell me what they’re trying to say. I tried to hone in on my intuition and feel the vibe they were putting off, listen to the intonation of their voice and the speed and urgency level at which they were speaking.
I believe these experiences are going to help me be more effective at communication in the United States. At least I hope so. 🙂
When we are attentive to more than what people are saying with their lips, we become more present with them. We get a little bit more out of our own heads and into the actual conversation.
Take advantage of the opportunity to truly be present with someone, one on one. It will change your relationships and thus, change your life.
#3 Be The Hero In Every Situation
“All the best heroes are ordinary people who make themselves extraordinary.” – Gerard Way
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: we are blessed. I know that not all of you reading this had a perfect upbringing; mine certainly started rough. But the fact that I am here writing this and you are here reading this means that we are blessed beyond words. We have opportunities surrounding us that much of the world can only dream about. It is because of these opportunities and our life experiences that we have the responsibility to be there hero in every situation.
You’re reading this because you’ve attracted this information into your life. That’s pretty cool stuff. Not everyone has figured it out yet. You are on a train of awakening, my friend. As you continue to attract these things into your life you will understand this truth more and more.
So how can you be the hero?
Anywhere you go, look for opportunities. There are always places and events and circumstances where you can participate more than anyone else. You can love more, give more, help more.
Pick up the tab, tip more than expected, leave a note for someone to surprise them. Find the situations where you can play a more active role in each moment.
Drew Canole is a rockstar in the world of fitness, nutrition and mindset, with a huge heart for others and doing his part to transform the world, one person at a time.
As the founder and CEO of Fitlife.TV, he is committed to sharing educational, inspirational and entertaining videos and articles about health, fitness, healing and longevity. He is also a best selling author and the founder of Organifi, an organic, incredibly delicious greens powder, chock-full of superfoods to make juicing easy no matter your busy schedule.
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