How To Create GREAT Relationships
Written by: Lindsay Sibson
I love LOVE! I love my family. I love my friends. I love my relationships. Heck, I love YOU and I haven’t even met you yet.
The feeling one gets when a mind and body is full of love is one of the most amazing sensations in the world. An even better one is when you get to share that feeling in a romantic relationship. After all, love is a drug and we are all a bit addicted, aren’t we?
“Hi. My name is so-and-so and I am a love addict….”
Should there ever need to be a 12 Step Dating & Relationship Manual, I could easily pen that right in there. I’ve had my fair share of relationships and breakups. Most recently, I was dating an Irish lad who I had met on my travels (I have been backpacking Europe since April 2014). He was sweet. He was charming. He made me laugh. We got along great!
But after only 5 months, I broke things off with him. Why did I walk away from a good relationship?
Because I want a GREAT relationship!
I’m not scared to be single in my 30’s when most of my friends are having their second baby. I’m not worried about whether or not I will find my “other half.” What I AM concerned with is being absolutely in love with myself, my life and the amazing people that are in it. Because what I have come to find is that, when I am FULL – full of love, happiness and energy – I attract other people that are equally as FULL, if not overflowing!
As I continue my quest to live an authentic, happy and healthy life (with a touch of humor and wackiness), I will take with me the knowledge and lessons my experiences have taught me.
What have I learned about what makes a relationship GREAT?
The 5 Commandments for an Amazing, Incredible, Loving Relationship Include:
1. Relationships are a source of love, happiness, excitement and adventure.
2. Your partner complements you and encourages you to express yourself authentically.
3. A mutual level of trust and respect is shared between you and your partner.
4. Fiery passion and blissfully intimate encounters are necessary (I’m talking about sex, baby!).
5. You are equally as committed to your partner’s happiness and life vision as you are to your own
Sounds fantastic! Doesn’t it?
But how do you create and manifest a great relationship in your own life?
First, start with defining what YOUR definition is of a GREAT relationship and partner. You are a unique person with personal preferences and ideas of what would make you feel amazing and fulfilled. Create a vision of your ideal partner and relationship.
Some important questions to ask yourself are:
- How do you feel when you are with your partner?
- What makes you feel excited about your relationship and the future?
- What DON’T you want? What types of actions and behaviors won’t you tolerate?
- What is important to you in regards to: date nights, sex, celebrations, conversations, etc…
- Do you and your partner share similar visions? Values? Goals? Lifestyles?
After you have a clear vision of what a great relationship means to you… it is time to start taking action!
If you are in a committed relationship currently, share your vision with your partner and work together to create your ideal GREAT relationship. Express your thoughts. Share your feelings. Communication is absolutely KEY in creating an AWESOME, AMAZING, INCREDIBLE, LOVING relationship!
If you are single and mingling, truly listen to what each potential partner has to say and ask them questions about what they want in life. BE BOLD. The Irish lad I dated was happy enough but couldn’t answer the question regarding what his vision was for his life – which I feel is very important for a person to know!
Furthermore, growing and learning is essential in regards to creating your ideal relationship… and also your ideal life! Read articles about relationships. Listen to podcasts. One of my favorite books that changed my mindset on dating and relationships was He Is Just Not That Into You. It was liberating in the sense that it made me realize that when someone is TRULY interested in you… that person:
- Contacts you regularly
- Makes consistent plans with you
- Expresses their interest in you
- Is clear on what their intentions are
- Does NOT “play games”
Above all, you should stop searching for your “other half” because you (yes, YOU!) are NOT “a half”. You are an amazing, talented, unique, beautiful, WHOLE person! Never forget it.
Lindsay Sibson turned her lifelong dream of traveling the world into a reality when she first stepped on a plan in April of 2014. With the simple intention of learning more about this beautiful world, she stepped away from corporate America to explore an alternative lifestyle of long term international travel, volunteering, blogging and pursuing a blissfully happy and fulfilling way of life.
Lindsay documents her journey in hopes of empowering others to find their passion, reignite their spark and freshen their outlook on life. Connect with her on her website and follow her travels on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/_traveloholic_).
Through her blog, Lindsay documents her journey in hopes of empowering others to find their passion, reignite their spark and freshen their outlook on life.
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