How To Break Free From Negative People And Energy – Mindset Monday
POSTED ON April 28, 2017 BY Stephanie Kwong
Today, my friend Stephanie Kwong is going to talk to you about how to break free from negative people. We’re really excited to be bringing people from our community into our videos, so THANK YOU, Stephanie, for being a part of our movement and sharing your beautiful gifts of inspiration with the world. We appreciate you!
Negative Energy Pulls Down Your Vibration
Is there someone in your life who drains you emotionally? Do you dread being around this person because you feel judged by them, or you feel stressed or exhausted when you’re with them?
We all come across people in our life, whether it’s family, friends or even strangers who are negative towards us, or invalidating. People who put us down, make fun of the way we live our life, or shoot down our dreams.
This post is going to be on how to handle the negativity from other people and how to shift any negativity that you may have inside yourself so that you can keep yourself in a positive vibe.
Why Staying In A State of Positive Energy Is So Important
Your energy is one of your most precious commodities.
The energy you embody and put out into the universe will dictate the world around you. The more positive and loving your energy is, the better you will feel in your physical, emotional and mental bodies and the more incredible things you will attract into your life. The same goes for if you’re energy or vibe is low or negative.
The people in your life can have a big impact on your energy. They can lift you up, or bring down your vibe, even if you keep shifting the way you perceive them in your mind.
When you’re around negative people, it can feel like they’re sucking the life out of you and if you keep them around, you’ll keep absorbing their energy and that negatively affects you and your life.
Years ago, I started to become aware of the people around me who were bringing me down. There were a few of them who were critical of my choices, who made fun of some of the ideas that I shared with them, or who were constantly complaining. I noticed that I didn’t feel good about myself and I was spewing the negative juju out to others after being around them.
I made a decision to distance myself from the negativity, because I knew I had to protect my energy. And there were some different steps I took to make that happen, which I’ll share with you. But before I do, think about the people who you spend your time with.
3 Steps To Clear Your Energy Of Negativity
Do you have people who bring down your vibe? People who you feel judge you or who make you feel drained after being with them?
If you do and you’re ready to clear your energy of their negativity, here are some steps you can take:
#1. Decide If You Should Let Them Go From Your Life
If they bring nothing but negativity and don’t add anything to your life, it would only support you to let them go and it may even support them too. So, whether that means unfriending, unfollowing, writing a letter to them or having an honest and compassionate conversation about how you can’t spend time with them anymore, make it happen. It may be hard, but do it, because it’s necessary and because you love yourself enough to not keep people in your life who drain you dry.
This is so you can be the best version of yourself and keep bringing love and positivity to others. If you’re vibe is down, that’s the energy you spread, so this is why it’s so important to let go of the people who bring you down.
#2. If They Must Stay, Set Hard Boundaries
It might be easier to let some people go and others may feel harder, like when it comes to family. Sometimes it might still be necessary to let a family member go, but if it feels too extreme to break up with them, there are some things you must do.
If you want to have real authentic relationships with people in your family, you have to be honest with them. It’s not a matter of changing them, but setting a boundary or letting them know how you want to be treated. You can let them know that you won’t take their criticism or negativity anymore. You can say, “I love you, but if you keep criticizing me, or constantly complaining, I’m not going to be able to spend as much time around you.” And then have a conversation about it.
Sometimes they may not even be aware of their behavior and how it affects you. And now that you’ve made them aware, it’s up to them to choose how they want to be with you. Let others know that you respect yourself and don’t let them put you or your dreams down. We teach others how to treat us.
They may respect your request and if they don’t, you can start to spend less time with them, because they’re not bringing anything positive to your life, instead they’re just taking your energy. You have to do it for yourself if you respect yourself, your time and you energy. Focus it all on positive people who lift you up.
#3. Embrace Compassion
Another thing you can do to shield your energy and handle any negativity coming your way from friends, family or even strangers is to have more compassion towards people. All the negative things they say actually have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
If they are attacking you, they are most likely attacking themselves all day long. The way we talk to others is also our self-talk. If people are genuinely kind and supportive with you, they are most likely that way with themselves. If they are mean to you, it’s because they are in so much pain on the inside, which is why it’s expressed on the outside. This is why it’s so important to turn inward and love ourselves.
To handle the negative energy coming your way, go inside yourself and send compassion to this person. Everyone in this world could use more love and what I love about sending people love and compassion is that I get to feel that energy no matter how anyone treats me. In order to give something, we have to feel it, so as you choose to give love and compassion when negativity is coming at you, you get to feel it too.
Decide Today To Create A Space For Your Best Self
As you are raising your vibe to be your best self, surround yourself with people who lift you up. Part of self-love is having a higher standard for your inner circle.
And, the amazing bonus to your life when you have people who support you in staying positive and uplifted is that you will attract the things you want. You will attract good people and amazing things when you’re giving off amazing energy.
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Remember, we’re in this together.
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Stephanie Kwong is a transformational life coach, hypnotherapist and speaker on a mission to empower and inspire people to love themselves and live their greatest lives. She believes in the power we all have to transform our belief systems and habits and uses a combination of science, metaphysics, coaching and hypnotherapy to make it happen. In addition to working one-on-one with clients, she created a ‘40 Day Self-Love Transformation’ online program that has helped thousands around the world increase their sense of worthiness and self-love. Her current obsession is creating her upcoming podcast ‘Rise Higher’ sharing unfiltered stories, mindsets and practical tools from people who have elevated their lives to achieve success. She’s also releasing her “Miracle Mindset Mastery,” which shows how to rewire your subconscious beliefs to create miracles and abundance in your life. Outside of her work, Stephanie’s favorite things are the people in her life, good food, passport stamps and being a dancing machine.
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