Chona Navarro (Transformation Story) – Redefining Myself At 50*
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Have you ever felt as though something was missing from your life? Like you were just going through the motions and not really living? Maybe you’ve seen yourself as a relatively happy person, but felt an underlying sense of dissatisfaction.
I’ve felt this way on and off throughout my life and rationalized these feelings by saying things like, “I can’t have everything I want… Putting life on hold is part of being a good mom… Nothing is perfect…” I avoided change and validated my way of life with thoughts like, “I should be happy because things could be worse… I’m not talented enough to do what I really want to do… If I had more money, I would do things differently…” Sound familiar? Don’t get me wrong, I did not have a bad life, but I was dissatisfied with the averageness of it and often thought that there just had to be more to life than this.
As far back as my teens, I remember thinking that there were bigger things ahead, that someday I would be doing great things and, as much like a cliché as it sounds, I would be making a difference. I didn’t know what or how at the time, but felt that it would happen… someday.
I did all the things I thought I was supposed to do: secured a well-paying job; gained recognition at work and advanced quickly; got married; bought a house; and had two awesome kids. Unfortunately, right before my first child was born, I lost my mom to cancer. Losing Mom while becoming a mom myself was bittersweet. I became busy with the new responsibilities of being (or trying to be) a perfect wife and mother while working a demanding full-time job. Though I seemed to have it all together, inside I felt lost and disconnected. Physically, I felt like hell because I put all my energy into the needs of others and made no time for me.
Being busy was a great distraction. It created a false perception of a life that was full. When my marriage ended a few years later, I buried myself deeper into work and took on greater responsibilities. I focused on doing everything I could to soften the emotional pain of divorce for my kids, not realizing that I had abandoned my own pain, including unresolved emotions around my mom’s death.
The years went by quickly and just as I started to feel a little stability, my aunt, who was like a mother to me, passed away from cancer. At the same time, my father’s Parkinson’s had advanced, causing further decline in his health and he died a few months later. I continued to do life in the same way – merely existing, but not thriving. There were many days I’d wake up wanting to bury my head in the ground to avoid the daily checklist of to-do’s that had become my life. Just getting through the day became my focus.
When I turned 48 and crept closer to 50, I thought of my mom, who in her early 50s, was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I realized my “someday of greatness” was slipping by and my desire for change turned into desperation. It was then that I connected with the CrossFit community and my life started to shift. I became a certified CrossFit Coach and shortly after turning 50, I took a massive scary leap. I gave up the comfort of my income and retired from my job. In exchange, I gained greater presence with my kids and inner peace.
These decisions were frightening, but I chose to feed my faith and starve my fears, which gave me the courage and momentum to keep stretching myself. Wanting more change, I went through Fitlife’s 90-day transformation process and became a Certified Transformation Coach. Through this, I lost 4% body fat and felt like I was in the best physical shape of my life. More significantly, I gained a different perspective. I learned that my subconscious, self-sabotaging thoughts – thoughts that kept me feeling trapped, powerless and unfulfilled – had me believing that true happiness was out of my reach. Through mindset practices, I became aware of my power and took steps to own it. I now recognize absolute and full accountability for how my story has played out and feel empowered to create a new one.
Though I wish I had not waited until I was almost 50 to make changes, my life has been filled with lessons that have brought me clarity. My transformation is an ongoing process and I’m living life now and find greatness in the present while I work to create the life that I want. Through coaching, I’ve inspired and supported change in others and create connection through my own experiences. Because of what I’ve been through, my intent – my purpose, my mission – is to support others through transformation and to serve as an example that it’s never too late to reinvent yourself.
“The cost of not following your heart is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.”
Drew Canole is a rockstar in the world of fitness, nutrition and mindset, with a huge heart for others and doing his part to transform the world, one person at a time.
As the founder and CEO of Fitlife.TV, he is committed to sharing educational, inspirational and entertaining videos and articles about health, fitness, healing and longevity. He is also a best selling author and the founder of Organifi, an organic, incredibly delicious greens powder, chock-full of superfoods to make juicing easy no matter your busy schedule.
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