5 Ways To Create A New Mindset
Written by: Kavata Kithome
I had a conversation with one of my mentors recently and she asked me a question that really stumped me. She asked me, “what does a day that you lived with passion look like?”
She asked me to not be too quick to answer and to really think about the answer. I found that the more I thought about it, the more the answers that I came up with didn’t quite hit the mark.
It is easy to get stuck in a rut doing what you always do and just keep going through the motions. But if you are like me, there is a quiet whisper; you know, that one that Oprah talks about that nudges you, reminds you that life is and should be lived with passion.
So how do you change your ideals and begin to tap into your highest experience? Oprah says it beautifully, “We can’t become what we need to be by remaining what we are.”
Your brain has been set and conditioned in one way of operating. If you remain in this mode forever, you deny your basic human calling: to evolve.
This becomes an issue of mindset. A mindset is like a worldview. It’s the lens through which you see life. You let in certain experiences and censor others. When you hear someone else express an opinion, you filter it through yes, no, maybe and so what? before actually hearing it.
What is your mindset right now? I find that I cannot tap into this answer quickly and this is why I could not answer my mentor’s question with certainty.
Deciding to leave an unhealthy habit behind and create a new lifestyle change is a hopeful gesture, but oftentimes our old, unhealthy ways sneak back in. Old habits are rooted in an old mindset. While it sounds incredibly ambitious to change a whole mindset, in reality this is as easy as making one or two personal adjustments because a new mindset paves the way for a broad range of life changes. It is important to remember that there can be no creative change without conscious effort.
Here are five reprogramming techniques that can help clear your mind as well as change your mindset:
1. Shed Your Old Self
Most people’s beliefs, opinions, likes and dislikes are on a default setting. In any situation, their thinking isn’t centered on the present, but is a remnant of the past. When you find yourself having a negative reaction, you can see if that reaction is one you frequently fall back on such as getting angry, feeling anxious, shutting out whatever is new and unknown. The best thing to do is to simply stop for a second and silently repeat the following mantra: “I am not that person anymore.”
Let this thought sink in, then open yourself to the situation as it’s unfolding in real present time. Remember your real self is always here and now.
2. Discard Default Attitudes
Most of us have reacted to thousands of situations over a lifetime that left an impression. An impression is like a microchip that sends out the same message over and over. It makes us respond the same way over and over as well, which is the opposite of actually being in the present.
The quicker your response is, the more you should reject it as a default mechanism. Simply seeing this will help to recondition the brain. The same brain that became imprinted can be cleared again, it just take a little self-awareness.
3. Listen To The People You Don’t Listen To
I once heard that when you shut anyone out, you are censoring reality. Wow, what a powerful notion. Great decision-makers appear from the outside to be very decisive and single-minded. But this disguises how they actually arrive at a decision, which involves a period of searching. While searching, they open their minds to all kinds of information, spreading the net as wide as possible. In other words, great decision-makers do the opposite of censoring reality.
Try listening to people who you’ve been shutting out, despite your reasons not to. See yourself as a kind of human inbox, allowing as many viewpoints as you can to enter your mental landscape. A rigid mindset is soon melted this way.
4. Develop Expanded Awareness
As a defensive move, we contract our minds due to fear and threat. We draw back when we feel insecure and vulnerable. Most of us are opposed to the unknown and the potential risks that await us there. These are all symptoms of constricted awareness. What you want to cultivate is expanded awareness. No matter what is happening, awareness determines the outcome.
Be conscious of when you feel these things, take a deep breath and relax. Let your mind ease into the situation instead of contracting – that’s all expanded awareness needs to be. Meditation is an excellent way to nurture this state of being.
5. Find The Way Of Least Action
The combination of stress, struggle and needless suffering is the result of a mindset that sees no other way to live. In physics, the law of least action holds that nature favors the shortest path to achieve a result. If nature is always this efficient, using the least effort and energy as possible, why do we complicate our lives?
But there has always been another way, as pointed out by the world’s wisdom traditions: life was never meant to be a major struggle. A life aligned with the laws of nature is not only easier, but it also brings love, creativity and bliss as our birthright. Meditation will help you grow closer and closer to this reality.
All of these things are worth exploring, I think. They guide me personally and from long experience I know that mindsets – which can feel like prisons – can be transformed into the gateways to freedom.
Do you have any other techniques to change your mindset? Please share in the comments below!
Kavata Kithome is an advocate for living your best life, full of health and longevity. While working closely with gym owners and personal trainers, she was able to sculpt a well-rounded view of fitness and understands how to incorporate it with a healthy balanced diet. She is a regular contributor to the One More Step Lifestyle brand.
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