4 Secrets to Falling in Love With Your Body (#4 is my favorite)
By Doris Dahdouh
“I’m in the mood for love, simply because you’re near me.” Does that song make you smile and think of a special someone? Have you tried singing that song to yourself and maybe making your own body that someone special?
Maybe this sounds absurd to you and that’s okay. The truth is, many people across the world are unhappy with the reflection they see in the mirror. A sense of inadequacy and self-loathing may have entered your subconscious when I insinuated that you look at your body in such a way.
But have you ever really looked at yourself? Have you ever thought about how truly amazing your body is and the many wonderful things that your body can do?
There is a genuine beauty in the body whether it is chiseled, toned, short/tall, thick or thin. This mystery is a discovery I made through countless years of feeling miserable in my own skin. I was insecure and doubted my own exquisiteness because I was overweight and despised everything about my body. I felt isolated but realized that I was not alone in my thinking.
Men and women alike have issues with body image. Maybe you are a guy who feels the pressure to bulk up and have tight, toned abs to be considered attractive? Or maybe you’re a female that feels the need to be skinny and sculpted to be “pretty”?
Have you allowed the number on the scale to define you and the physical size of your body, set your value? Did you know that none of that is true? You – yes you – are so much more than anything you have previously believed about yourself. And your body is much more precious than you’ve probably ever given it credit for.
Would you like to see your body for what it actually is – an amazing, hard working, worthy individual? I invite you to fall in love with your body using these 4 secrets I’ve share with you below. (I personally find the fourth secret to be the most important.)
Secret 1: You are not vain if you look in the mirror longer than 10 seconds. Grab a mirror and look thoroughly at your eyes, your legs, your shoulders, your mouth, your stomach, your eyebrows, your nose, your hands, your eyelashes, your hair, your arms, your chin, your thighs, your hips, your butt, your ears, your neck, your back, your calves… and everything in between!
Concentrate on a feature that you like (or are ready and willing to learn to like) and smile as you examine and admire it. It could be as simple as the crookedness of your smile, the curve of your hips or the broadness of your shoulders. Whatever it is, smile and embrace it. Whisper to yourself using an “I” statement as if what you are about to say is a unique and exclusive finding. For example, “I have beautiful eyes.”
Secret 2: It is okay to agree with the compliments you have been given by others. You can practice by saying a simple “thank you” when someone pays you a compliment. Do not downplay or question the compliment and do not showcase one of your weaknesses as a response. Just say “thank you.”
Make a “Love List” of all the flattering remarks you have received regarding any of your features, look over it and challenge yourself to learn to love and agree with at least one of them. Carry this list with you in your wallet, purse, phone or pocket, so you can refer back to these beautiful words often. The goal is to make these kind words your reality.
My go-to example of making a “Love List” is by taking a blank piece of paper and drawing an outline of your hand. Then, writing five compliments in the place of where each finger lies. You can also make a copy of this paper and place in areas where you will see it regularly, such as your bathroom mirror or refrigerator.
Secret 3: Find an enjoyable activity that releases endorphins and builds your confidence. Exercise assists your brain in releasing chemicals (a.k.a. endorphins) into your body which produce relief from pain and a sense of joy and happiness. I call it the “natural, free, legal, feel-good drug”! When you are “feeling good,” your confidence begins to build. And the more confident you feel, the better you feel about yourself and your body.
Plus, when you workout you are helping assist your body to be healthy. Be kind to your body. Your body takes a beating every time you mistreat it by depriving it of necessary rest, exercise and nutrients.
Secret 4: Use your mind to overcome any negative thoughts. Think about all of the things that your body can do: walk, breathe, embrace, run, comfort, entice, procreate, listen, hold a hand, taste, protect, dance, and so much more. Your body has the ability to heal itself from small scrapes to unknown serious illnesses. Your body can provide you pleasure and create a new life.
Your body allows you to work, laugh, live and enjoy your God given gifts. Think about all of the magnificent things your body can do and actually “grin with gratitude” (GWG). Enjoy the body that you live in. As Jim Rohn says, “Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
Now go back to that mirror, look at yourself in a whole new light, pose and “GWG”.
Doris Dahdouh has a Master’s Degree in social work and has helped counsel children and help families since 2001. In 2012, she became very ill due to a hormonal imbalance and autoimmune disorder. Doris was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) many years ago and was treated with mainstream medicine which did not help her. She hit rock bottom before finding refuge in holistic living, by juicing, going gluten free and eating clean, organic, whole foods. Over the past couple of years, Doris has educated herself on a healthy lifestyle by reading information by Dr. Joel Furhman, Drew Canole, Dr. Mark Hyman, Dr. Josh Axe, Vani Hari (a.k.a. Food Babe) and more.
Doris is enrolled to become a certified health coach with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and is very excited to help others achieve their best by combining her psychoanalytic skills and what she hopes to learn in the health coaching certification program. With a heart for others, she is eager to continue assisting as many people as possible towards optimal health.
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