4 Essential Questions You Need To Ask To Build Self-Love
Written by: Kat Gal
Self-love. It’s thrown around like a cliche nowadays. You know it’s necessary. But how can you actually love yourself?
Sometimes self-love just starts with the right questions.
Get really honest with yourself. Find a calm spot. Grab your journal. Ask yourself these questions and write about them. Not once. Not twice. But regularly. You may even want to dedicate some meditations or yoga sessions to these questions.
The more often you ask yourself these questions, the deeper you will dig, the easier you will find your answers and the easier you will learn the ways to love yourself the ways you need it most.
Here Are The 4 Essential Questions For Self-Love
#1. Who am I beyond my appearance, behavior, thoughts and emotions?
This is a tough one. But really, who are you? You look is constantly changing. You are not 5 anymore and you get older each minute. Your behavior changes too. Sometimes you are slow, other times you are rushing, sometimes you are patient, other times you just want things now. You are not your thoughts either and not your emotions. Sometimes you are filled with positive thoughts and happy emotions, other times you are down.
But if if you are not your appearance, behavior, thoughts and emotions, who are you? Dig deep. Discover your true self. As you find the real you, you will start loving it too, I guarantee.
#2. What do I need right now?
Ask yourself every day – or several times a day – what do you need? Clearly, you need nourishment. But what kind of food does your body need to be healthy and energetic? What kind of thoughts do you need for your mind to be nourished? If you are experiencing a difficult situation, what do you need to find comfort support and to move forward?
Understanding your needs is a self-loving process, moving you one step closer to getting what you need.
#3. How can I give myself what I need?
Understanding what you need is the first step. Now dig deeper – how can you meet your needs? You can’t rely on the outside world to give you a handout. You need to take care of yourself to meet your own needs. If you need someone’s help, love, care or other assistance, you need to ask for it.
Know that you can’t always meet your needs – or not immediately – and you need to be okay with it. Dig deep to find ways to comfort yourself in a healthy way when you can’t meet your needs and search for alternative ways to achieve balance, happiness and health.
#4. How can I take responsibility for myself?
Remember, you are responsible for your life. You are in the driver’s seat. You can change your mindset. You can change your emotions. You can make goals and achieve them. You can create your dream life. You can make a choice to be happy and healthy.
But this means taking responsibility for your life, choices, behaviors and emotions. This means living in a very conscious and mindful way with lots of awareness. Continue digging deep to find the best ways to take responsibility for yourself and your life.
Remember, this is a process. You won’t find the magic answer by asking these questions once. But if you ask yourself these questions regularly, journal about them often, meditate on them continuously and slowly shift your life based on the answers you find, you will slowly discover self-love, happiness and balance in your life.
Grab your journal and start looking for your answers.
Do you have other journaling ideas for self-love? Share them in the comments below. We would love to hear from you.
Kat Gál is the creator of Long Distance Relationship Help, a site which offers tips, tools, inspiration and resources to create a successful and happy relationships, no matter where in the world you may be. She knows from personal experience that love is possible despite the miles, you just have to navigate your way around it. She is passionate about the world and finds her creativity outlet as a writer and educator. You can follow her on her website and her Facebook page.
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