4 Benefits Of Sex and How To Have More Of It
Written by: Caroline Cosgrove
You are either thinking about it, doing it, complaining about it, planning ways to get more of it or bragging about how great your sex life already is. With the exception of the latter, most of us are left wanting more.
According to the General Social Survey, the average married American couple has sex just 58 times per year. Though lack of sex doesn’t automatically doom the relationship, it could put a serious strain on it.
When sexual intimacy is lacking, feelings such as insecurity arise, which could cause marital instability. Thoughts of infidelity are also common in relationships where one partner has a more active libido. If you do not communicate these concerns with your partner in a loving, and gentle way, you run the risk of creating feelings of inadequacies and self-doubt, possibly causing more tension in the bedroom and relationship.
Though many healthy and otherwise loving relationships can stand the test of sexless time, a desire for your partner and intimate connection are primal forces that keep relationships strong. Having a healthy sexual relationship benefits both the relationship and the the individual. Here’s how:
1. Natural Stress Reliever
Sometimes the glass of wine or pint of Haagen dazs just doesn’t cut it when we are stressed. It is times like these when we can look to our partner to shed some of the stress by shedding off some of our clothes. Simple skin-to-skin contact helps to lower blood pressure and slow down heart rate. In a study where couples had daily intercourse for two weeks, they were found to have lower stress-related blood pressure than those who just cuddled or abstained altogether. Unfortunately for us soloists, there was no change in blood pressure. After an orgasm, muscles relax and with a sigh, tensions stored throughout the day are released.
2. Toss the Sleeping Pills Out the Window
Sex triggers the body to release the hormone, oxytocin, which acts as a sedative, allowing for better sleep. The effect is much faster in men than it is in women, which I am sure we can all attest to, however, it is equally effective in both sexes. Scientists also recommend sleeping in the nude so, don’t be in such a rush to put your clothes back on! Sleeping naked helps to keep your body temperature down, which regulates cortisol levels. High cortisol leads to increased anxiety, cravings and has been shown to contribute to weight gain. Continue to reap the benefits of your love-making session, even while you sleep.
If a morning session or afternoon quickie is your thing, just be sure to have a pick-me-up juice ready to go (don’t skip breakfast!). Studies show that people who have sex in the morning leave the house feeling happier and healthier than those who opted for just a soggy bowl of Raisin Bran. The release of oxytocin in the morning is not only great for calming the nerves before a big presentation but, it also is said to help make couples feel closer throughout the day.
3. So Many Health Benefits
Unfortunately, the average romp session is not the calorie burning escapade once believed. Studies revealed that men burn approximately 100 calories during sex, while women burn… yes… just… 69. So, don’t count on it being your workout for the day. Instead, enjoy this health benefit: orgasm triggers the release of DHEA, which balances the immune system, improves cognition, promotes bone growth and repairs tissue. Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that those who had sex up to twice a week had higher levels of an antibody called, immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system. Too bad your active sex life won’t get you lower healthcare costs!
4. Building a Loving and Trusting Relationship
A loving, long term relationship will not sustain on just sex alone, but intimacy and affection are vital. Couples who are attracted to each other and act on those attractions are more confident and content in their relationship and less likely to stray. Keep serious conversations and distractions out of the bedroom. Yes, that means television and even phones. Couples who have televisions in their bedrooms (on average) have sex half as often than those who do not. Keeping an open and honest relationship about what turns you on is just as important as being honest about finances, so why are you afraid to talk about it? Let your partner know what he can do to pleasure you and do not be afraid to explore what excites him/her. Have trust in your partner and be confident to try new things. Yes, even sex can seem like a chore if you don’t mix things up a bit.
To get you started, or to keep you going, here is a great juice recipe to add to your repertoire:
- 1 beet
- 1 apple
- 3 slices watermelon
- 5 spears asparagus
- 2 celery stalks
- 1 handful parsley
- 1 handful mint
- 1 lemon
Where apples are said to increase lubrication and sexual function, beets have been used as an aphrodisiac since the days of the Romans. They are high in boron, which contributes to the production of sex hormones and tryptophan, which brings a sense of peace and happiness.
Asparagus is high in Histamine, required to stimulate orgasm. Celery contains the hormone androsterone, which when eaten, is released through male perspiration, attracts women.
Watermelon made the list because it is high in citrulline, an amino acid which increases the amount of nitric oxide in your blood. Higher levels of nitric oxide relax blood vessels and speed up circulation, allowing you to get aroused quicker.
Enjoy this juice daily and be sure to make enough for your partner!
Caroline Cosgrove is the founder of New Beginnings Health and Fitness Coaching, focusing on raising awareness of the health effects caused by the Standard American Diet. A Certified Holistic Health Coach and Online Fitness Coach, she educates her clients on the importance of creating a healthy, happy and balanced life, focused on exercise and nutrition. Her programs consist of both group and individual education, as well as children’s nutrition education.
Caroline is the mother of a healthy and happy 5-year-old girl, Sienna. Together, they are currently working to bring an organic vegetable garden to the school and to create a healthier school lunch program.
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