3 Ways You’re Sabotaging Your Health Goals
By Jenna Barrington
“Just imagine how much you’d get done if you stopped actively sabotaging your own work.” – Seth Godin
If you’re like me and (dare I say) a lot of other people out there, you have a strong desire to create a healthy life. You want more energy. You want more vitality. You want strength. You want to feel good! And why shouldn’t you?
You have also probably had your fair share of setbacks, “failures” and times where you wanted to throw in the towel (and maybe you did).
Though the desire to succeed is still there, maybe you are timid about making a big lifestyle change, because you are worried about failure. You beat yourself up badly enough the last time you tried and failed that you are hesitant to step forward and claim your right to good health and wellbeing.
Do you want to know the biggest thing that is standing in your way right now? Maybe you’ve already guessed.
Here are 3 of the most common ways people self-sabotage their own health and wellness goals and what to do instead!
#1 You Lack A Backup Plan
Whether you are starting a 90-day health transformation or simply trying to stop drinking soda for a month, there will *most likely* come a day (or a few days) where you mess up and fall off the bandwagon.
You’ll sleep in, miss your workout, give in to a milkshake, drink a whole liter of soda, forget your homemade lunch, cook something nasty for dinner and opt for pizza, feel too tired to make your green juice, whatever. Something is going to go wrong.
Some people hit this point and are able to pick themselves back up and keep going. A large number of people, however, mess up and essentially “give up” in their heads and begin to spiral downward.
This is because they didn’t “plan” on messing up and now their plan is ruined and they were never going to make it anyway and they really just don’t have it in them to be healthy and fit and sitting on the couch eating pizza is more fun anyway and their life was easy before (even though they weren’t happy) and now that they’ve messed up they’re just so depressed and done with their stupid plan that they should have never started in the first place so where is that bag of chocolate…
See what I mean?
You need a backup plan for when you mess up so that, instead of spiraling off your goal-train completely, you’ll simply flip over your page, find plan B and keep going.
For example: Say you sleep in and miss your workout. Instead of just throwing in the towel for the day, your plan B is to walk the stairwell up and down 10 times during your lunch break. Or to hit the gym in the evening instead. Or to take your kids on a long walk. Or maybe you have a backup fitness routine that you can do on your living room floor.
Or maybe you ate a whole pizza for dinner, because you only had salad all day and were starving at 8pm and out of willpower. Your plan B could be an extra workout the next day, a juice cleanse, a lemon water cleanse, or maybe an hour set aside for meditation so that you can get back on track with your goals. Whatever. Just have a PLAN B.
#2 Your Thoughts Aren’t Aligned With Your Goals
One of the most important things to do when making a lifestyle or dietary change is to change your thoughts to fit that lifestyle. This is something most people don’t actually take the time to do.
Everything starts in your head. Where you are right now in life is largely due to the way you’ve been thinking the past year or two years or ten years.
Every masterpiece – whether it be the Mona Lisa or a LaFerrari sports car or a beautiful home – started off as an idea in someone’s mind. It didn’t just poof out of thin air just because someone said they wanted a nice car or a new house.
You CANNOT be a new person if you don’t start to THINK like a new person.
You will never BE a millionaire if you never learn to THINK like one.
You will never be FIT, HEALTHY and STRONG if you keep thinking the same thought patterns that are keeping you tired, sick and weak.
You have got to take time to focus on your thoughts, how you think and realizing what you believe about yourself. If you can change your thoughts and beliefs (and I promise you can), you can absolutely without a doubt completely change your life.
It’s as easy as changing your mind.
Take time each day to examine the way you think. Catch yourself when you start thinking negative thoughts about yourself and your goals. Post positive affirmations on your mirror, in your car, on your phone background and around your workspace that can help bring your thoughts in alignment with your goals.
When you are faced with a difficult decision or keeping your goals starts to get really hard, try to think in a way that reflects how your role models would think. How the “new you” would think. Let go of old thought patterns. Meditate. Take time to be with yourself.
And watch your world change!
#3 You Don’t Find Support
We, as human beings, are not solitary creatures. Although it is important to spend time with yourself and to focus on goals that may not be supported by your peers, there will be days when you need support. You need friends. You need people who know how you feel and who always have your back.
You think Harry Potter could have killed Voldemort and saved the day at the end of each book without any support? You think Frodo could have made it all the way to Mordor without the help of Sam? You think Nemo could have found his dad without the help of his friends?
I don’t think so.
In this day and age, where you can reach people on the other side of the world within seconds and supportive communities can be found online everywhere, there is simply no excuse for not finding the support you need to succeed.
Find a gym buddy. Find people with similar goals as yourself. Find other moms who can teach you to cook healthy meals. Find role models who inspire you and empower you to reach your own wellness goals. Turn to them on the hard days when you feel like giving up.
“What’s worked for me is not quitting and being passionate about what I do and not giving up – and when I don’t believe in myself, turning to others who believe in me.” – Marc Jacobs
You are going to make it. Because you’re taking the time to read posts like this one, I know you have a strong desire to succeed.
Keep learning, keep trying, keep believing.
And always remember, we’re in this together!
Jenna Barrington is studying Therapeutic Nutrition and Holistic Medicine and aspires to be a practitioner, teacher and writer. She is passionate about education and helping others take control of their health.
Jenna lives with her husband in Utah and loves writing, cooking, green smoothies, training her dog, Japanese, spending time at the ocean, bungee jumping, walking barefoot in the grass and being with her family.
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