3 Ways To Accept And Let Go Of Stress
Written by: Christine Obee
In my life, I’ve found that the most rewarding things on this journey are also the most challenging. Despite this perspective, however, I still tend to resist the bejesus out of the challenge.
I always wish for things to be different.
For instance, when I started my coaching business, I wanted the clients to just find me. When I first trained for a 10km race, I wished the conditioning was easier (or not necessary at all). When I became a yoga teacher, I struggled to accept that teaching opportunities wouldn’t just fall into my lap. Most recently, being a mom of a 5 week old baby boy, I wish lack of sleep wasn’t a part of my world.
The underlying result of all this “wishing” was…
What I’ve learned (especially during these past several weeks of being a new mother) is that, each time I fight or resist the way things are (reality), they get harder and more painful. When I focus on wishing that sleep deprivation wasn’t a part of my reality, I only end up fostering an unhealthy obsession with sleep.
My entire day gets focussed on how to get more of it – I’m currently on a mission to feel fully rested and when I can’t obtain that feeling, I get frustrated, resentful and overwhelmed. I expend energy on trying to sleep that could be spent on enjoying the wonderful things that DO exist in my day.
Put basically, when I spend my time wishing things were different, I miss out on all the good stuff, the stuff that makes all the trial and hardship worth it.
You see, when I stop the wishing and pay attention, I realize that my reality actually contains the deepest love and connection for another being that I’ve ever felt. It contains seeing my husband as a father and falling even deeper in love with him. It contains a more appreciative, connected relationship with my mom. It contains a level of support from friends, family and even strangers that I never would have expected.
Which part of your reality do YOU wish was different?
How much time and energy are you wasting on trying to change something that can’t be changed? What amazing things are you missing in the meantime?
I want to help you END THE STRUGGLE and find PEACE with your situation – no matter how hard they may be. Here are some tips that worked for me and I hope they can do the same for you.
1. Flip Your Perspective – Instead of thinking about everything that is WRONG in your current situation, think about everything that is RIGHT. When you flip your perspective, you can shift your focus from the negative and take in the positive, allowing yourself to appreciate and enjoy the good things about your situation – then it all doesn’t seem so bad anymore.
2. Take Responsibility – Acknowledge that on some level, you chose the situation you’re in and you can chose to stop wishing things were different. I know this can be a hard pill to swallow, so I invite you to try it on for size. If you chose the situation, then you have the power to change it, or at least how you let it impact you. It’s a much more empowering mindframe.
3. Take Things 1 Day At A Time – Recognize that this isn’t how it’s always going to be. Think about all the changes you’ve gone through in your life. Things are always changing. When you break things down to one day at a time, they aren’t as overwhelming and there’s no need to wish things were different; you can just accept what is.
Yes, I am a sleep deprived parent. Yes, having more sleep would be great. However, when I flip my perspective, take responsibility and take things 1 day at a time, I can appreciate all the good things that exist and see that I’m the happiest and fullest I’ve ever been in my life.
Is there something about your reality that you don’t like, that you can’t control?
The next time you find yourself resisting it, try these three steps and see how much stress you can reduce. Notice where you can find appreciation for all the good things this reality holds and focus on those. Before you know it, this reality won’t be so much of a weight for you anymore, but rather a time to learn, grow and achieve.
Christine is certified as a Lifestyle Design Coach and Yoga Teacher. Having made the transition from a draining, ‘just paying the bill’s’ job to doing work she loves, Christine now helps others in their own transitions. Through personalized coaching programs that combine practical methods with energetic and spiritual concepts, she moves professionals from a place of being disengaged and unfulfilled to finding clarify, hope and purpose.
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